“What would I say to someone unsure about coming out? 

 I would say ‘You don't have to! People feel obligated to come out because their sexuality differs from what's considered the ‘‘majority.’’ However, having to come out has been seen as necessary so you don't have to keep a secret, so you don't feel the guilt of lying to society. But if that is your only motivation, Don't do it. You don't owe anyone anything about your romantic life. Coming out takes courage, it takes bravery, and strength. Above all, it takes pride. Coming out is a rite of passage for those who want to push the narrative, change the world, be visible and acknowledge the truth about the world. It's a freeing experience and wonderful feeling for many. If you want to do it, take your time, learn yourself, and do it how you want, when You want and to who you want. 

Coming out isn't about the admission of guilty, but rather the acknowledgement of self.”

TJ Griffin, LMSW, D2C Program Manager for MHF’s MCC Team

“As a proud LGBTQ ally, I want you to know that if you're unsure about coming out and need someone to talk to, I am here for you.  While I may not fully understand the feelings you’re experiencing, I can imagine how scary or challenging it might feel. But whether you’re a part of MHF or one of our patients, you are fully accepted here. You belong just as you are, and we are committed to providing a safe and welcoming space for you.  You are not alone in this journey.”

Kimberly Curtin, PharmD, APh, Pharmacist at Men’s Health Foundation Pharmacy

“Coming out is not just a one-time event but rather a series of moments where you choose to share parts of yourself with others. It’s an intensely personal journey and it’s okay to move at your own pace. Each of our experiences are different. I think it’s totally normal to feel uncertain but it’s important to remember that your identity is valid regardless of whether or not you decide to share it with the people around you. What’s most important is that you feel empowered in your choices. Don’t feel pressured to rush - you deserve to come out when you feel confident, comfortable, and ready. When the time feels right, trust that there is a supportive community ready to stand with you. You are never alone. There are countless people who have walked this path before you and we are all here to uplift and celebrate you. Your authenticity is powerful and the world is better experienced when you live your life as your true self and on your own terms.”

Michael Hirsch, RN, Sr. Director of Clinical Research Operations for Mills Clinical Research

“Dear You,

Come here and wrap yourself in a big hug—you’re going to need it. The world can be cold and unkind, but before you let that overwhelm you, take a deep breath and remember to stay calm. You’ve got this, babe. Right now, the best thing you can do is focus on educating and empowering yourself. When you step out into the world, you won’t have to search for love or validation in the wrong places because you’ll already have the most important thing—your own strength and self-love.

There will be times when your feelings try to pull you in directions that don't serve you. When that happens, pause. Take a moment to reflect before you act. Trust me, there's no rush. This new chapter of your life deserves patience, and so do you.

And please never forget—you are loved. Always and completely.

With all my heart,

Mama Miranda and your LGBTQIA+ family”

Miranda Ramirez, Lead PrEP Navigator for MHF’s PCC Team

“If you're not ready to come out, that's totally fine! There is no correct timeline for coming out or way to do so. Take your time and get to know yourself, love yourself, and just exist in your authenticity, and everything else will fall into place.”

Dillon Tyrrell, MHF Patient Access Specialist